{"id":2953,"date":"2017-05-15T14:07:46","date_gmt":"2017-05-15T18:07:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/?p=2953"},"modified":"2021-09-14T14:24:50","modified_gmt":"2021-09-14T18:24:50","slug":"teach-your-friends-to-be-supportive","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/2017\/05\/15\/teach-your-friends-to-be-supportive\/","title":{"rendered":"Teach Your Friends to be Supportive"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\t<section class=\"section\" id=\"section_632143625\">\n\t\t<div class=\"section-bg fill\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n\n\t\t<div class=\"section-content relative\">\n\t\t\t\n<div class=\"row row-collapse\"  id=\"row-1018178368\">\n\n\t<div id=\"col-1443366632\" class=\"col small-12 large-12\"  >\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"col-inner\"  >\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t<div id=\"gap-1651807650\" class=\"gap-element clearfix\" style=\"display:block; height:auto;\">\n\t\t\n<style>\n#gap-1651807650 {\n  padding-top: 30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n<p class=\"lead\">Going through a medical crisis is hard enough on its own. Combine that strain with being a young adult whose friends may be struggling to relate to an illness and, man, it\u2019s a tough spot to be in. We\u2019ve been there and have compiled a few tips to help you teach your friends how to be supportive.<\/p>\n\t<div id=\"gap-684499891\" class=\"gap-element clearfix\" style=\"display:block; height:auto;\">\n\t\t\n<style>\n#gap-684499891 {\n  padding-top: 30px;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n  <div class=\"banner-grid-wrapper\">\n  <div id=\"banner-grid-855700217\" class=\"banner-grid row row-grid row-small\" data-packery-options=\"\">\n                      \n<div class=\"col grid-col large-12 grid-col-2-3\" ><div class=\"col-inner\">\n\t<div class=\"img has-hover x md-x lg-x y md-y lg-y\" id=\"image_67575856\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"img-inner dark\" >\n\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" src=\"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/grill-out3.jpeg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n<style>\n#image_67575856 {\n  width: 100%;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div><\/div>\n<div class=\"col grid-col large-4 grid-col-1-3\" ><div class=\"col-inner\">\n\t<div class=\"img has-hover x md-x lg-x y md-y lg-y\" id=\"image_581231599\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"img-inner dark\" >\n\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1020\" height=\"680\" src=\"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/grill-out2-1-scaled.jpeg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/grill-out2-1-scaled.jpeg 2560w, https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/grill-out2-1-600x400.jpeg 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1020px) 100vw, 1020px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n<style>\n#image_581231599 {\n  width: 100%;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div><\/div>\n<div class=\"col grid-col large-4 grid-col-1-3\" ><div class=\"col-inner\">\n\t<div class=\"img has-hover x md-x lg-x y md-y lg-y\" id=\"image_1810768677\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"img-inner dark\" >\n\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"577\" src=\"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_6376-2-1-e1559663789499-768x577-1.jpeg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_6376-2-1-e1559663789499-768x577-1.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_6376-2-1-e1559663789499-768x577-1-532x400.jpeg 532w, https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_6376-2-1-e1559663789499-768x577-1-510x383.jpeg 510w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n<style>\n#image_1810768677 {\n  width: 100%;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div><\/div>\n<div class=\"col grid-col large-4 grid-col-1-3\" ><div class=\"col-inner\">\n\t<div class=\"img has-hover x md-x lg-x y md-y lg-y\" id=\"image_401755290\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"img-inner dark\" >\n\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1020\" height=\"680\" src=\"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_4533_SMALL-1200x800.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_4533_SMALL-1200x800.jpg 1200w, https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_4533_SMALL-600x400.jpg 600w, https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_4533_SMALL-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_4533_SMALL-1536x1024.jpg 1536w, https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_4533_SMALL-2048x1366.jpg 2048w, https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/8\/2021\/09\/IMG_4533_SMALL-510x340.jpg 510w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1020px) 100vw, 1020px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n<style>\n#image_401755290 {\n  width: 100%;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n<\/div><\/div>\n            <\/div>\n    <style>\n    #banner-grid-855700217 .grid-col-1{height: 600px}\n    #banner-grid-855700217 .grid-col-1-2{height: 300px}\n    #banner-grid-855700217 .grid-col-1-3{height:200px}\n    #banner-grid-855700217 .grid-col-2-3{height: 400px}\n    #banner-grid-855700217 .grid-col-1-4{height: 150px}\n    #banner-grid-855700217 .grid-col-3-4{height: 450px}\n\n\n    \n    \n\n  <\/style>\n    <\/div>\n  \n\t<div id=\"gap-1204890982\" class=\"gap-element clearfix\" style=\"display:block; height:auto;\">\n\t\t\n<style>\n#gap-1204890982 {\n  padding-top: 60px;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/div>\n\t\n<p><strong>Be Patient<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>This is a learning curve for everyone, your friends included. Acknowledging that they will make mistakes as they try to love you through this is the very first step toward growing your friendship! Give your pals and yourself a little grace.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Be Honest<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Talking with your friends about what you\u2019re going through is the best way to show them how to be supportive. \u00a0They may not be able to relate directly but venting a bit will give you some relief and give your friends some insight on where your head\u2019s at. Being honest about what you are feeling and thinking is important not only for you but also for your relationships. Your friends need to know you are looking for support in order to give their support.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Let Them Help<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Your friends may need you to tell them what you need. If you want someone to watch trashy reality TV with this week, ask for it. If you don\u2019t think you\u2019ll be up to making dinner next Friday, ask your friend who loves to meal prep if she\u2019s able drop something off. If you just need someone to vent to, tell a friend so that she knows you are looking for a listening ear. \u00a0It\u2019s also okay to ask to be alone; we all need solitude at times.<\/p>\n<p>We can\u2019t guarantee someone will always be available immediately, but by describing what you need to your friends, it shows them how to best support you moving forward.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Little Things<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Acknowledging the little things your friends do affirms to them that you appreciate the thoughtfulness and support. Sending a text, letting you vent, bringing you candy \u2013 these may seem like small acts but they break the seal into \u201csupportive friend\u201d territory and can go a long way toward brightening your day. Let your friends know their little acts of love make a big difference and show your appreciation to encourage their continual involvement. A little gratitude makes a huge difference in motivating your loved ones and leading them down the path of being a supportive friend.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>What have your friends done to support you? We want to hear about your experience at our next Vita Collective gathering! Join us on May 24th for a grill-out and expand your supportive friend circle with young adults who can relate to your experiences. Contact <a href=\"https:\/\/www.childrenshealingcenter.org\/teach-your-friends-to-be-supportive\/jsikma@childrenshealingcenter.org\">Janna Sikma<\/a>\u00a0for more details about this fun get-together!<\/strong><\/p>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\n<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\n\t\t\n<style>\n#section_632143625 {\n  padding-top: 15px;\n  padding-bottom: 15px;\n}\n<\/style>\n\t<\/section>\n\t\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Going through a medical crisis is hard enough on its own.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":2842,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[73,75],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2953","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-member-stories","category-aya-movement"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2953","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2953"}],"version-history":[{"count":9,"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2953\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2965,"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2953\/revisions\/2965"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2842"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2953"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2953"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/childrenshealing.org\/beta\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2953"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}